While pornography and depression may not seem related, research suggests the two subjects may share more in common than you think. In fact, a recent study indicates a significant relationship between mental health and pornography use, which included behaviors reflecting behavioral addictions, highlighting the potential contribution of internet pornography to negative mental health amongst several university students.
What Causes the Connection?
“Individuals do not turn to porn because they are depressed,” says Eddie Capparucci, PhD, LPC, CSAS of Abundant Life Counseling. “They turn to porn to escape the negative emotions that come from being depressed.” He adds that perhaps many individuals who wind up addicted to pornography have been dealing with a low-grade depression most of their lives. A lack of learned practices to deal with pain and discomfort is something that Capparucci believes is a major issue for people that struggle with porn addiction: porn, in a sense, is a means of escaping their distress.
Porn’s Impact on Depression
Is porn, however, a good escape when depressed? According to Gabrielle Usatynski, LPC, at Power Couples Education, yes and no: “Low serotonin levels are one of the key chemical imbalances linked to depression,” she says. She adds that having an orgasm can trigger the release of serotonin, “making you feel peaceful and relaxed. Orgasm also gives you a surge of dopamine, another key neurotransmitter that is in short supply with depression.” “People get addicted to porn, but they also then develop a tolerance for it, just like they do for drugs, which leads to a consequent reduction in pleasure every time they use it,” Usatynski explains. “In other words, you need more and more dopamine, more and more stimulation, in order to produce that pleasurable result. This is why over time, watching porn can make your depression worse.”
When Is Too Far Too Much?
Here are Capparucci’s defining actions that will help a person recognize when porn has negatively impacted their lives:
They rather isolate and watch porn instead of socializing. They become dissatisfied with their partner’s appearance. They are preoccupied with sexual thoughts throughout the day, and they cannot wait to see what new visuals have been updated on their favorite porn site. They see sex as nothing more than a physical act that involves no emotional intimacy. They take more risks and may start searching for porn at work or when their partner may be able to catch them. They find themselves objectifying people more. They start desiring to seek out different sexual activities or may escalate to acting out what they see in porn with people.
Getting Help
Soumya Choudhary, clinical neuropsychologist and head of research of Behavidence, believes acknowledging that there is a problem is always the first step—and then finding a therapist to suit this specific issue. Using apps that track your digital behavior can also be a good way to take control of your porn addiction and self-manage your mental health:
Track when depression levels or impulse levels are high and then implement healthy interventions like exercise, calling a friend, therapy, joining a support group, meditating, etc., to prevent negative outcomes like binge-watching porn to feel better. Be alert to the possibility of undiagnosed depression or ADHD, and get evaluated to prevent the negative consequences of not being treated, Measure if the steps you are taking to reduce porn addiction are actually working by tracking your daily habits (or Mental Health Similarity Scores in the Behavidence app) and seeing the improvement daily and over time.
What Does Treatment Look Like?
Someone with severe symptoms of a porn addiction may benefit from a period of inpatient or residential treatment where they live at the care center. This option allows people to remove stressors from the outside world to focus on rehabilitation exclusively. Programs like these normally last between 28 and 90 days, with some longer treatments available. Choudhary also adds that the treatment for porn addiction and depression or any other mental illness will always be customized, i.e., it will be client-centered and based on the evidence presented by the client. Here are available options:
Individual therapy: It is recommended because becoming aware of triggers and finding healthier ways of managing them can prove very useful. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic approaches are often readily available. Group therapy: Clients can meet with people struggling with similar issues and learn coping mechanisms that’ll help them overcome the day-to-day challenges of porn addiction. Such groups are often readily available but may become a more challenging effort on the clients’ part if they may have social anxiety or are struggling with severe depression. Medication along with therapy: If there is an underlying mental health condition such as depression or an anxiety disorder present, medication may be a component of treatment alongside the psychotherapeutic and behavioral interventions.
A Word From Verywell
If you’ve fallen into a porn addiction or sunken deeper into a depression, it’s important not to feel ashamed, embarrassed, or discouraged. The first milestone is recognizing you have a problem and are willing to seek help. Reach out to your support system, and get help from licensed health professionals who can walk with you each step of the way. For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
