This article discusses Rubin’s scales measuring liking and loving and his theories of the main components of love.
Rubin’s Elements of Love
According to Rubin, romantic love is made up of three elements: Based on this view of romantic love, Rubin developed two questionnaires to measure these variables. Initially, Rubin identified approximately 80 questions designed to assess the attitudes a person holds about others. The questions were sorted according to whether or not they reflected feelings of liking or loving. These two sets of questions were first administered to 198 undergraduate students and a factor analysis was then conducted. The results allowed Rubin to identify 13 questions for ’liking’ and 13 questions for ’loving’ that were reliable measures of these two variables.
Questions in Rubin’s Liking and Loving Scale
The following examples are similar to some of the questions used in Rubin’s Liking and Loving Scale: For each item, people rate their response on a scale from 1 (not true) to 9 (definitely true). If you are interested in taking the original test designed by Rubin, it is available here. Items Measuring Loving
Rubin’s Research on His Theory of Love
Rubin’s scales of liking and loving provided support for his theory of love. In a study to determine if the scales actually differentiated between liking and loving, Rubin asked a number of participants to fill out his questionnaires based on how they felt both about their partner and a good friend. In his research, Rubin identified a number of characteristics that distinguished between different degrees of romantic love. For example, he found that participants who rated high on the love scale also spent a great deal more time gazing into each other’s eyes as compared to those who rated only as weakly in love. Love is not a concrete concept and is therefore difficult to measure. However, Rubin’s scales of liking and loving offer a way to measure the complex feeling of love. Other researchers also introduced a variety of theories related to the concept of love. In 1958, psychologist Harry Harlow suggested that “so far as love or affection is concerned, psychologists have failed in their mission. The little we know about love does not transcend simple observation, and the little we write about it has been written better by poets and novelists.”
A Word From Verywell
Rubin’s research marked an important step forward in our understanding of romantic love and paved the way for future research on this fascinating topic. Today, researchers continue to explore the nuances of love and how it affects both physical and mental well-being. Understanding the differences between liking and loving isn’t always easy. According to Rubin, liking involves feelings of respect and warmth, whereas loving entails caring, attachment, and intimacy. It is important to remember that Rubin’s concept of loving does not just apply to romantic love. It can apply to love that happens in many interpersonal relationships, including those with friends and family.
